Your big day is around the corner, and managing the infinite to-do list seems like a nightmare, but every week, you start checking off the tasks, and now you have a few moments to catch your breath. And since you are reading this article, you might still have some problems such as choosing your bridesmaids? As a thoughtful bride, it can be hard to pick among your group of friends because you don’t want to offend anyone, but at the same time, you feel like one of your friends will help you more than others, and another one is way too emotional and anxious to be a bridesmaid. The selection is hard, but if you want to make the most of your wedding, building an army of committed bridesmaids is essential. So, if you want to make wise choices, here is a small guide to help you build the perfect bridesmaids team:
The role of a bridesmaid
A bridesmaid’s role is often underrated. When you choose your bridesmaids, keep in mind that the friends you pick should be emotionally supportive of you, help you with the pre-wedding and big day preparation, help you organize all the tasks, DIY the projects, have fun with you, and make sure you look flawless for the entire day. So, there is no place for jealousy or other negative feelings towards each other, just true friendship and support. So, when building your team of bridesmaids, you should focus on the people who are usually by your side in difficult situations, the ones you know can make the most of the party and, overall, build a team of friends with enhanced positivity and good vibes.
How many bridesmaids do you need?
The most common question for brides who have a big friend group is, “How many bridesmaids are too many?” There is not an exact rule about this. In fact, you can have four, six, or even up to ten friends by your side, during your wedding. However, to determine the final number, consider the budget you would like to allocate for this area because more bridesmaids will surely mean more money spent, as you will have to pay for most things such as dresses, make-up, hair, and accessories. Once you have decided, here is what you can do next to build and strengthen your team of bridesmaids.
List the important ladies in your life
To make the selection process easier, consider writing down a list of the most important ladies in your life. You can include friends, best friends, and family members such as sisters and cousins. When it comes to their age, you can pick a few little girls that can also be your flower ladies and choose the rest of your bridesmaids closer to your age, or opt for people you simply trust and you know for sure they can help you. Also, it’s important for your bridesmaids to know you well, so it’s essential to bond and have a strong connection to face the challenges with a smile.
Pick the maid of honor
One of your bridesmaids should stand out as a maid of honor, who usually has more duties than the other bridesmaids. So, in case you have picked a family member for your team of bridesmaids, it would be best for you to assign them this role, as you most likely have a strong relationship by nature and they know you better than anyone else.
Pop the question
Now that you have a clear vision of your team of bridesmaids and know exactly who you are going to ask, it’s time to pop the big question. To make things more fun and enjoyable, consider “proposing” with a thoughtful gift. For instance, you can create personalized items such as candles, tote bags, perfume bottles, and robes to ask your best friends, “Will you be my bridesmaid?” you can organize a special party to ask them so that you can spend quality time together right after the big yes, celebrating the upcoming special event.
Pick the perfect dresses
One of the most important parts of your wedding is the outfits. Besides your dress, that will surely be white and stunning, you should pick the perfect bridesmaid dresses to create the aesthetic you are looking for. You can get inspired on dedicated websites and blogs or social media platforms such as Pinterest, where you can find beautiful ideas that can help you make your final decision. Traditionally, all the bridesmaids should wear the same color, but you can also embrace the idea of a colorful wedding by purchasing rainbow dresses for them or going for the same color in different hues, making sure to complete the theme of your wedding perfectly and also considering the season.
Communicate and commit
Communication is key for a successful wedding. So, since your bridesmaids are your ride or die during this entire period, consider creating a WhatsApp group and organize meetings so you can share your thoughts, ideas and take initiative for the important projects for the wedding. Being a bridesmaid is a commitment, and this role comes with duties, so don’t be afraid to ask your best friends for advice and emotional support when needed.
Have fun together
Last but not least, don’t forget to have fun together. What is done is done, and even if not everything goes exactly as planned, make sure you enjoy your big day. So, besides spare make-up, tissues, and hairspray, make sure your army of bridesmaids also brings with them their best dance moves, a good vibe, and the biggest smile.
Now that you have all planned and a clear mind, take some deep breaths and visualize your dream wedding and get ready for the most important day of your life.
